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How to tolerate to not tolerate ?!

Mummy, u keep on nagging me, I cannot tolerate it 

Papa is always so strict and puts restrictions on me going out late nights or outstation, I cannot tolerate this

One of my siblings is so irritating, and the other one is so brilliant than me, So I cannot tolerate them and the other one is just like me, I just like her.

I cannot understand Maths, I do not like it and so cannot tolerate my Maths Teacher

My sister in law is so interfering, I cannot tolerate her

My in-laws ask so much and do not leave us alone, I cannot tolerate them

My grandparents just do not understand us. There is a generation gap, I cannot tolerate them

My husband always keeps his wet towel on the bed. He does not take me out. I just cannot tolerate his habits

My wife is a big time spendthrift, I cannot tolerate her.


And the list goes on… I hope many of you will relate to the above!!!


Tolerance means to withstand. You can withstand heavy winds, sail in the ocean through wild winds, only if you know about why it happened and how you can withstand it.

Tolerance comes with Understanding, knowledge and acceptance of knowing things or people. 


Few tips & Hacks to Tolerate the intolerance :-

  • Everyone is not perfect. You can also be intolerable for some.
  • Try to put forth your point properly to others, so they can understand your view
  • Everyone's understanding or grasping graph is not the same. Try to be patient
  • In a spur of a moment, we can spoil the mood, relations; try some hacks that can help you withstand that moment of intolerance, anger, etc.; Like Remain silent, count numbers, take deep long breaths of calming down, recite a mantra u like, hum your favorite song within, etc.
  • In the heat of arguments, we may spill out some words that can be unpleasant for others. Take a deep breath, try to locate what is the point of argument for both parties. You will definitely find a way for a Healthy Conversation than unhealthy arguments.
  • When you are sure that you cannot make the other person Understand your view, take a back seat and do what is correct for all. Give one chance to understand the other person's rejection
  • Include pursuing your hobbies, daily stress-buster exercises, meditation in your daily routine.
  • Try to keep a family conversation every day for some good quality family time
  • Always be transparent about your likes, dislikes, wants, aspirations, so people are aware.
  • Issues happen in the absence of No Solution. Understanding is the key factor

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